How to be a REAL success
Relationships:
The relationship rule that I will focus on how to add value to people is to follow the golden rule. The golden rule is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. What this means is that you treat other people how you would like to be treated. An example of the golden rule is that if you want people to respect you or to keep respecting you then you should respect them. I chose to apply this rule to my life mainly just because I’ll be able to use it when I’m teaching at my Taekwondo to make it more enjoyable for me and for the kids that I am teaching. Like in my first example, I need the students to respect me so that they will listen to me and do what I ask right away. A better example of the golden rule that I can use is rather than just teaching them the boring curriculum, I can try to have fun with them and try and make it easier for them to remember things by giving them tricks that I used to remember everything because that’s for the most part how I was taught when I was younger and for sure how I would have wanted to be taught. I know that if I use this rule when I’m teaching it will make me a better more respected leader in Taekwondo and once I’ve gotten good at using it in Taekwondo then I’ll be able to use it outside of it as well.
Equipping:
The equipping aspect that I’m choosing to work on is, not doing everything by myself. What this means is that I try to work with a team more often, ask questions more often and that I need to ask for help when I need it instead of spending a long time trying to figure it out on my own. For example, if there’s a project where you have the option of working with a partner but you have to do twice as much work then usually I’d work on my own because I think it’s easier but I could get my project done better if I work with a partner because we’d be able to check over each other’s work whenever and we would also be able to help each other. John Maxwell kept saying that you cannot be successful on your own, you need a team. So working in a team for projects and asking for help when I need it could first of all help me get better marks on the project but secondly it will be good practice to apply to life later when I’m trying to become successful. The first way that I will do this is by not being afraid to ask my parents or peers for help when I’m stuck on homework. The second thing I will do is, next few times that we have an assignment where we are allowed to work with a partner, I will take that option and work with someone else.
Attitude:
The attitude rule that I will be working on is responding to excessive demands on my time and my energy with a positive attitude. This means that when someone is telling you to do something that uses some of your free time and your energy to do you don’t think of how hard it’s going to be, why you shouldn’t have to be doing this, or that you can’t do this. You have to think of what you’re going to get out of it, maybe you get stronger, maybe you’re going to get paid, maybe the person who told you to do the task will respect you more or maybe you’ll just get experience but the point is whatever you’re doing there will be a positive takeaway from it unless you say that it’s too hard or something like that and don’t do it. I want to use this rule in my life because I think that it will improve my overall attitude and it will m make life in general easier once I’m used to using this rule because whenever I’m working I think of what good I’m going to be getting from it so I’ll have more motivation to complete the task and probably do a better job at it than someone else who’s doing it without motivation. I will apply this to my daily life by finding one good thing that I can get out of the task that I’m doing until eventually, I’m used to finding something positive from the work that I’m doing
Leadership:
The aspect of leadership that I will write about is challenging the process. Challenging the process means that you are trying to find problems in a process and trying to find methods that don’t work then you’re trying to fix the problems in the process. Challenging the process means that you must take risks by asking questions about the process to find the problems with it and you need to experiment with solutions to fix the problems. For example, at school, if there’s a math formula that the teacher is showing you and is saying that is the best way to solve the problem but you know there is a faster more effective way of doing it then you ask the teacher about why they teach that way and they are most likely right but say they’ve never heard of it then you can try that formula out a few times and show it to the teacher and they might switch the way of doing that question. In that example you’re not happy with the process so you question it, then you experiment with it and then you fix the problem. I want to apply this to my life because it is good practice stepping up and it could definitely help improve my confidence and my leadership abilities because I’m taking charge when I’m questioning a process and fixing it. This is going to be a bit harder for me to use in real life because I’m going to have to constantly look for issues mainly with things that are being taught to me when I’m at school and Taekwondo or if I’m doing anything else where I’m being taught.